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It Doesn't Hurt to Look, Does It? Porn can affect the whole family!

Here are some good articles on viewing porn, and the effects on the family.

It Doesn't Hurt to Look, Does It? | Psychology Today: "You might think viewing pornography can’t hurt a real-life relationship. Some even claim that erotic material impacts their relationships in positive ways. So a team of researchers at Florida State University developed an experiment to determine how consuming pornography affects adults' commitment to romantic relationships."

http://familyshare.com/pornography-is-not-a-victim-less-habit
Pornography is everywhere. No longer is it just reserved for magazines. Pornography is found on the radio, the Internet, smartphones, television, in books, in emails and in ads and billboards that are all easily accessible to adults and children alike.

http://familyshare.com/whats-so-bad-about-pornography telling your son about porn.

http://familyshare.com/recovering-a-marriage-from-pornography-wreckage-3-aspects-of-recovery
Pornography can take a desperate toll on marriage. According to Covenant Eyes’ 2014 statistics, 56 percent of divorce cases involve at least one party in the marriage who “obsessively” looks at porn.

http://familyshare.com/safeguard-your-children-against-pornography

http://familyshare.com/myths-about-pornography
There was a time in the United States that school children were taught that cigarette smoking didn't cause cancer. The tobacco industry profited from their parents' smoking while thousands died, according the Huffington Post. Now another industry profits from an addiction that can enter your home, free of charge, on your smartphone or iPad.

What I Wish My Friends Knew

Most pornography viewers are completely unaware of the harms and the negative side effects of pornography use. Here is a list of all the things that I wish my friends knew before they started watching porn. http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/media/i/what-i-wish-my-friends-knew

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http://familyshare.com/topics/addiction

How to Keep Our Thoughts from Making Us Miserable

How to Keep Our Thoughts from Making Us Miserable:

“Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” ~William Shakespeare

I thought I knew what happiness was. I experienced it, and did so for a while—that is, what I thought was happiness.

What I was calling happiness was merely an emotion. Emotions, feelings that arise in the body, come into existence when we have thoughts related to them.

When I have certain thoughts having to do with anger, then I will feel, actually physically feel, angry. When I have thoughts that are positive, then I will feel the feeling, or emotion, that we call happiness. more,,,,

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Live as if you were to die tomorrow,

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Heres whats on my craft table

It's crazy around here these days! My oldest daughter is going to have here first baby in August and is getting married in 2 weeks. 

Here is what is on my craft table this week. I crocheted her a bridal garter, pattern here I'm also making her wedding dress (not formal) and I tossed some baby shoes in there for fun!

pattern here.

Pop on over to my sewing blog page or crochet blog for for crafting fun. Links at top of this page.

Happy Crocheting!

Look Up

What to Do in Those "I Can't Handle It!" Moments | True Woman

What to Do in Those "I Can't Handle It!" Moments | True Woman

God is able and willing grant us the grace to victoriously walk through any and every difficult circumstance we may face.

It's my pity party, and I will cry if I want to!

Welcome to my 

pity party. 

No one else invited!

Yes this is my pity party, and I will cry if I want to!

For those of you who don't know what a pity party is, let me explain. 

First when you are hosting a pity party, you are the only guest in attendance. There usually aren’t any balloons or cake. Bummer huh? A pity party is more a state of mind. A place you allow yourself to go to feel sorry for yourself. We like to share our woes hoping other people will want to attend our pity party and feel sorry for us. If we spend too much time at this party we feel worse about the situation that got us there.  I'm not talking about the occasional slump we all go through feeling stress or letting ourselves get overwhelmed my life. I'm talking about the "wallows". "No one loves me, I think I'll go in the yard and eat worms". 

I don't want to say my life is the worse it gets or that my problems are more horrible of difficult than others. We all have our own stories and problems. 

These last 4 plus years have been the worse years for me.

To begin with, My Mother suffered from Alzheimer’s and her decease was advancing rapidly. She no longer recognized me when I went to visit her in her home.

My Husbands step father, my Grandfather and, My Father all passed away in a close time frame.

My step son got a DUI. (I won’t even get into this mess!)

My marriage of 13 years crumbled. This was the beginning of several more years of disclosures and pain.

I had health issues, depression and I lost over 70 pounds in 6 months.

Then had an emergency gall bladder surgery and problems with my pancreas and blood pressure for a few months. I had to be rushed to the ER because I passed out in a convenience store. I landed on a Gatorade display. My head still hurts when I see a bottle of Gatorade.

I had a mental breakdown, and was on a boat load of different antidepressants.

I had to leave my job,

During all this I had to keep my head clear to plan my daughter’s wedding. Something I really wanted to do despite my mental capacity.

I experienced several other deaths including close friends and I lost 2 cats,

Then I was diagnosed with cancer, (needle scratching across record sound here)

Wait there is more,

My Mother became very ill and my brother and I had to admit her to hospice where she later passed away the first week of my radiation treatments.

I had surgery to remove the cancerous tumor and as I mentioned radiation treatment.

9 months later I'm still recovering from radiation and I am being treated for Lymphedema. Radiation treatment on my hip has jumpstarted me into menopause. 

I haven't been able to work for 10 months. 

This was from the end of 2009 to date.

I have spent a fare amount of time by myself at my pity parties. At some point I decided to stop allowing myself to wallow long in this space. I had to start giving myself time limits to cry and feel sorry for myself. Then I had to try to snap myself out of it, pull my big girl pants up and get on with my day.

Some days were easier than others. In the first couple months after learning of my husband’s betrayal I spent most of my days crying and in a state of hopelessness. I would take showers and huddle in the corner on the floor sobbing until the water heater ran out of hot water.  I spent so many days in this state that it became comfortable. Not a good thing!  To make a longer story short, I found help via a 12 step program, friends, family, and therapy. I experienced recovery and healing.

Today I recognized quickly that I was feeling sorry for myself. I felt down and grumpy. I even had some anger deep inside. I recognized this, sat with it for awhile and ding the timer went off. (In my head). I found something to distract me and snap me out of this slump. Today I watered my vegetable garden and flowers. I wrote this blog. Other days I journal or text a friend. This was a healthier response than years ago.

I don’t beat myself up for throwing these pity parties. I’m human and I’m not perfect. I do try to learn from my mistakes.I just tell myself that I snapped myself out of a slump before I can do it again.

I remember years ago when I was going through a divorce from my first husband. I was feeling sorry for myself. I was chatting with another Mom at my daughter’s school telling her my sob story. Her response caught me off guard in fact it kind of pissed me off. She said to me, “You are in charge of your own destiny”.  “If you don’t like where you are at or going in your life, change it”.

Ha what a bitch I thought! I smiled and walked away. Vowing to never talk to her again!

I now realize that my reaction to what she said was that of an unstable person. Someone throwing a pity parting and she chose not to attend. It took me years to come to the same conclusion. I am in charge of my own destiny, and if I don’t like where my life is I have to change it. In the 12 step program it says, “If you don’t change, nothing changes”. I concur.

With recovery and growth I realize that I am in charge if my own destiny and I have to make my own Happy!

 

I hope that sharing my story has inspired you to take off that pity party hat, and get living! Make some changes. Your are in control. Live like you were dyeing. 

You can find me out in my garden soaking up the sun. I'm wearing a sun hat these day!

You may also enjoy an older post of mine,

 "God helps those who help themselves"

The Four agreements

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book): Don Miguel Ruiz: 9781878424310: AmazonSmile: Books:

Myths about sexual addiction

by: Ben Luthi

Nov 07, 2012  

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Myths about sexual addiction: "Sexual addiction is a nasty thing. But misconceptions about addiction and the addict themselves act to suppress addiction recovery and healing."

Does God answer prayers?

This morning when I was thinking about a blog subject I was thinking about praying as one. Then I saw this article on my Facebook feed. My blog is done today!




Go check it out and then drop to your knees and give it a try!

Does God answer prayers?:

Today I am grateful for...

(1) Today I am grateful for...: "Today I am grateful to be able to celebrate another birthday! At my age, I use to shutter at the thought of getting older. But 9 months ago I was diognosed with cancer. Thanks to modern medicine, and the love of God I made it through treatment. My future looks good and today I celebrate!"